SOCIAL NETWORKING By Lincoln Spector Social distancing wearing you down? Consider how much more difficult staying home, possibly for weeks or months,
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AskWoody MVPApril 6, 2020 at 1:15 am #2223681Viewing 8 reply threadsAuthorReplies-
Stephen Yeo
AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 3:26 am #2223702The discussion of Zoom’s virtual backgrounds is a bit misleading. There seem to be two situations
- You have a powerful, recent vintage computer. In this case your computer can distinguish you from your background and substitute an image of your choice as the background
- You have an older, less powerful computer. In this case you have to transform your background so that it is just one colour, and then you tell Zoom what the colour is. As long as the real, physical background is one colour, then Zoom can distinguish you from your background and substitute the virtual background. (Of course this only works you are a different colour from the physical background, otherwise parts of you get substituted out for the virtual background).
In practice I fall into category 2. All I did was take a piece of string and run it from one wall to the other behind me, and put a blue bedsheet across it (Zoom recommends a green physical background, but other colours will do). After you do this and tell Zoom the colour of the sheet, the virtual background works perfectly. There are other, more professional ways of doing the same thing involving photo background screens that you can purchase on Amazon or Ebay for $25. If you are doing Zoom calls all the time, you might want to invest in such a screen, which comes with a frame or attaches to the back of your chair.
Once you have a monochrome background behind you, Zoom’s virtual background works perfectly, and you don’ t have to hide the dirty dishes in the sink.
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AskWoody MVPApril 6, 2020 at 4:10 am #2223704This reminds me of a Mad Magazine cartoon from the 70s. They were speculating about video phone calls and what would happen. They showed a man in a pub/bar/inn telling his wife he was delayed at the office. Behind him was a large picture of his office. They may well have had other examples (the 70s was a long time ago!) Where Mad magazine went, we all followed! No personal computers then!
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Stephen Yeo
AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 4:33 am #2223706Zoom has just added a video of a tropical island (palm trees, surf, white sand) which is fun. I created one with the Houses of Parliament and Big Ben, so I can look a bit like a BBC newsreader.
It is a strange world we are now living in.
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AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 5:15 am #2223709I agree with Lincoln’s conclusions. We have a social club of older guys and, after checking out the alternatives, also came to the conclusion that Zoom was the best tool for us to continue activities during the shutdown.
I would add that Zoom have removed the 40 minute limit on meetings until 1 July.
There has been quite a bit of discussion on security on Zoom on another thread, started by Susan Bradley. My own view is that Zoom is OK for social use, as indicated in this post:
https://www.askwoody.com/forums/topic/patch-lady-should-we-be-concerned-about-zoom/#post-2223708
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AskWoody MVPApril 6, 2020 at 7:24 am #2223739I am thankful that I have the kind of job that allows me to work entirely from home; and that I have reliable phone and internet service.
My church broadcasts Sunday services via Facebook, so that only a handful of people actually have to be on site.
Life would be a lot more difficult without the internet in a time like this.
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AskWoody MVPApril 6, 2020 at 7:49 am #2223749“Social distancing wearing you down?”
Not at all. I was social distancing decades before the term existed! Introverts, ya know… we’re real!
Not being able to get toilet paper and my preferred grocery staple items gets on my nerves, and the stock of the substitutes I can find for those staple items is limited, so I end up having to shop much more frequently now than I did before all of this, and I really hate grocery shopping, even under the best of circumstances. That kind of thing bugs me, but socially, there’s no change between what I do now and what I have done for years.
“Consider how much more difficult staying home, possibly for weeks or months, would have been 30 years ago. Without the Internet, we’d be much lonelier.”
Mouse in your pocket? <grin>
I don’t really get lonely. I’m not sure whether I’ve ever actually experienced it. Boredom would be a lot more likely, though I am pretty resistant to that too.
Thirty years ago, I was a member of QuantumLink (on my Commodore 128), then when I built my first PC that same year, I switched to Q-Link’s sister service, PC-Link, which was soon merged with the (then) Mac-based service America Online, years before AOL became an internet provider. The things I use now to keep in contact with people (email and talking by voice on the phone) were available to me then also. I’d managed to cajole the people I was interested in communicating with to join AOL so that we could use that to exchange email.
As never before, video chat services such as Amazon Chime, Apple FaceTime, Facebook, Google Duo, Skype, and Zoom are helping to keep us together. Your family and friends might be spread all over town, the state, the country, or even the world, but thanks to the Web you can still talk to them all face-to-face.
The only two of those I had ever heard of were Apple FaceTime and Skype (obviously I’d heard of Facebook, but I had no idea they had a video chat function), and the only one I ever used was Skype (for Linux), twice, to cheer up my father in the hospital when I was not able to be there personally.
I’ve seen some of those “introvert life” quips about how the “stay home” thing was driving introverts nuts, not because of the isolation, but because now their other (extroverted) family members NEVER LEAVE, and they’re constantly wanting to talk, hang out, or do something, all the time. When they get a call on one of these video chat services, they can’t not take the call and pretend they’re not home if the person on the other end knows that they are! Once the call starts, they can’t just do the perfunctory chit chat and then cut it short by claiming to have somewhere to be if the person knows that they don’t.
They’re presented as humorous, but I don’t doubt for a moment there’s more than a grain of truth in these anecdotes. I’m fortunate enough to live alone (four-legged household members excepted), and to have never started any of these services in the first place. Same’s true of SMS text messages… I never started accepting them, so no one who knows me expects to be able to use them. Gotta nip that stuff in the bud!
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MemberApril 6, 2020 at 10:55 pm #2223947Back in the Eighties and early Nineties, besides attending to personal family matters (spouse, children…), there was: reading books, magazines, listening to the radio and to one’s favorite music with record players, having conversations with friends and relatives over the telephone, watching TV, exchanging ideas with people of similar interests through electronic bulletin boards, having letters written and sent, letters received and read, learning to play a musical instrument, solving acrostics and other puzzles, playing cards with fellow inmates, or else solitaire… Also whatever one had to do to earn a living working from home (already possible for some, myself included), and doing one’s taxes and all the other annoying but necessary things one has to deal with week in week out… Given all that and assuming weeks spent mostly indoors (not the case in those days for reasonably healthy people) that probably would have been no more annoying and tedious than it is today. Maybe less so? Who is to say?
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AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 1:55 pm #2223862If this happened then, I imagine we’d see a huge upsurge in interest in technologies like walkie-talkies, CB and Ham radio.
Also, dial-up BBSes already existed in the mid-1980s, and precursors to them were in use as far back as the 70s.
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AskWoody_MVPApril 6, 2020 at 11:06 am #2223798May I suggest creating email “round robin” information where everybody in the “to” or “carbon copy” receives the same mail. It’s slow, but lends itself to writing precision, reflection prior to answers, and avoids the current visual media difficulties.
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AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 1:46 pm #2223861On the topic of staying in touch, I do think Discord merits a mention.
I haven’t played around with whatever video capabilities it has, but not everyone is comfortable being on camera (or owns a webcam) anyway, and it has familiarity going for it. I and most people I’ve talked to had literally never heard of Zoom until the pandemic hit, but even if I wasn’t already using Discord, I know at least three or four people in the face-to-face world who are, and who’d be able to help me set it up. We recently helped an isolated friend with some learning disabilities who’d never used a computer before get up and running with it, and he’s doing pretty well.
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AskWoody LoungerApril 6, 2020 at 8:55 pm #2223929I’d never heard of Discord. I went to the website on my computer. Why in the world would anyone want to visit DEATH in a time like this? The site is HIDEOUS. Black is the color of death and I can’t stand black backgrounds with white font…those stupid sites think it is “cutesy”. It isn’t even in better times. Black backgrounds (even what is at this site since this site is still not designed for wide screen monitors) make my eyes sting and burn. I can tolerate it here because it is just two wide black columns and the middle part here is white with black font and a goldish color for where the lists of recent replies, etc are.
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AmbularD
AskWoody PlusApril 6, 2020 at 9:35 pm #2223932Some folks find white text on a black background easier on the eyes than the reverse. But the app has a nice cheerful white background theme available, if that works better for you.
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OscarCP
MemberApril 7, 2020 at 2:23 pm #2224052(1) About what helps one use a computer screen without tiring one’s eyes: I tried it for a while, white on black; then I tried black on light gray. Then I went back to black o white and a slightly dimmed screen, because, it turned out, this tires my eyes less than the two other alternatives.
What has worked for me always, but the applications I have seen for changing colors do not offer, has been: (1) gold letters on black background; (b) black letters on a light orange-beige background that I can adjust myself with a color wheel.
(2) On keeping in touch at a distance: has anyone been playing chess or checkers with others over the phone?
Or online?
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GuestApril 10, 2020 at 10:10 am #2232733Word of advice on video chats when calling your older relatives: Call on a voice-only line first to prepare them for the video call, as they may be indisposed and not realize that an incoming video call is going to turn on their front-facing camera. Trust me, what you see next can stay with you pretty much forever …
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MemberApril 10, 2020 at 11:07 am #2232810That depends on the application. With Skype, for example, there is a notification of an incoming call, and then the person receiving it can choose to answer the call or not; if the former, the call can be set up by the recipient as audio only, or as audio and video. Also there is a voicemail for the callers to leave messages if the would be recipient is not around to answer, also forward the message to another number. I imagine that Skype is not the only one like this, but not all are; so it is better to keep also in mind Anonymous Guest’s advice when choosing the application:
https://support.skype.com/en/faq/FA34859/how-do-i-answer-a-skype-call
In any case, it is better to have a pre-arranged time for making those calls to relatives or friends, so the called party can be ready and waiting; for unexpected things, particularly urgent ones, a regular telephone call works.
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