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    Not sure whether this is the right place for this. My daughter is nine years old and has started to pester me to allow her to link with her friends at school via her computer. Up till now I have refused to consider this, and indeed force the use of Sandboxie on her Internet connection, but I think I now have to consider her request. She asked to be allowed to access a site called IMVU but my research suggests that this is not a suitable website for kids and the download file to make it work is dubious.

    It leads me to wonder what other loungers with kids have found to be suitable IM sites for their kids, sites where there is some control and perhaps some blocking of sensitive information. Zone Labs suite does help but can be got round by a determined kid. I appreciate that it is my responsibility to teach her how to protect herself on the net, and I take this seriously, but there remains a danger that she will be unsupervised from time to time and might hide things from me. Any advice would be appreciated.

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    • #1071571

      What ever you do, make sure that you have her account name and password, so YOU can check up on what she is doing. But that will NOT stop her from creating another account hidden from you.

      DaveA I am so far behind, I think I am First
      Genealogy....confusing the dead and annoying the living

    • #1071656

      Two things I would do – talk to the school to see what advice/recommendations they may have, and talk to other parents to find out their views.

      My (now 15-year old) daughter has been using Skype for a few years now, and it seems pretty innocuous. If you can reach an agreement with other parents to all use the same IM software, you remove the ‘need’ for your child to have to use a third party site. You may wish to check your daughter’s profile – i.e. don’t let her describe herself as a pretty blonde 9-year old living at 27 Acacia Gardens etc. – and definitely no photo.

      If what she wants is to chat with her friends, this should suffice. They can have group discussions, transfer pictures and files and have video links if they want, and if you set the privacy right, they should not get pestered by unknown users. You could set the program to keep a history of chats, but she can easily turn that off, and that history is only available on the specific machine the messaging took place.

      • #1071784

        You might even think seriously about a program such as WebWatcher

        • #1071788

          Er… not me, I think!

        • #1071792

          Not me either at those prices! But then again, I don’t have any young children I’m trying to protect.

          In order for the program to do what the advert says, you’d have to buy the $97 dollar version, but I suppose that isn’t bad for the protection of a family from the evils of the web. grin

          • #1071899

            Tis a tad expensive, but when I compared what it will do vs the other guys that charge even more for me at least it was a no brainer.

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